Last week I have been in a small group of especially talented and inspiring people, being privately trained by Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup of the Soul books (more than 500.000.000 copies sold), author of the Success Principles and the #1 success coach in the world. He is an amazing teacher and I want to bring you some of what he teaches about success.
We all aspire to do, be, and have great things. Yet most of us simply aren’t creating the results we want. Many complain to not have enough money, romance, success or joy in their lives. We point fingers and blame outside problems that “happen” to us and make life more difficult.
What we need to understand is that greatness exists in all of us. It is simply up to us to pull it out of ourselves. Regardless of personal circumstances, economic climates, and access to resources; it helps to maintain faith in the fact we are all more powerful than we think.
We all have the ability to create the life we want. We simply need to learn how to do it. Is there an exact “formula”? No, but there are certain common traits that successful people exhibit and that anyone can practice. They can jump start your success and attract what you want in life. You’d be hard pressed to find any high achiever who doesn’t live by the following:
Successful people take full responsibility for the thoughts they think, the images they visualize, and the actions they take. They don’t waste their time and energy blaming and complaining. They evaluate their experiences and decide if they need to change them or not.
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They face the uncomfortable and take risks in order to create the life they want to live. You will experience
successes thanks to you, and you will experience pain, struggle, and strife thanks to you. Sounds a little strange, but accepting this level of responsibility is uniquely empowering. It means you can do, change, and be anything.
One of the main reasons most people don’t get what they want is they haven’t decided what they want. They haven’t defined their desires in clear and compelling detail. What does success look like to you?
Not everybody’s definition of success is the same, nor should it be.
Don’t let your inner devil’s advocate inhibit you from dreaming big. As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious, creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, they also compel others to want to play big.
Scientists used to believe that humans responded to information flowing into the brain from the outside world. But today they’re learning that instead we respond to what the brain, based on previous experience, expects to happen next. In fact, the mind is such a powerful instrument; it can deliver literally everything you want. But you have to believe that what you want is possible.
As you commit to believing in yourself, also make a commitment to toning down the complaint department. Look at what you are complaining about. I’m fat. I’m tired. I can’t get out of debt. I won’t ever get a better job. I can’t stand the relationship I have with my father. I’ll never find a soulmate.
Really examine your complaints. More than likely you can do something about them. They are not about other people, other things, or other events. They are about YOU.
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If you are going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you have to believe that you are capable of making it happen.
Whether you call it self-esteem, self-confidence or self-assurance, it is a deep-seated belief that you have what it takes; the abilities, inner resources, talents and skills to create your desired results. Have unwavering faith in yourself, for good and bad. Make the decision to believe that you create all your experiences.
Imagine how much easier it would be to succeed in life if you were constantly expecting the world to support you and bring you opportunity. Successful people do just that. Expect the best to happen, always.
A first step in your goal achievement can simply be making an immediate change in a single area in your life. Making a change might be uncomfortable and overwhelming for you. It might mean you have to put in more time, money, and effort. It might mean that someone gets upset about it, or makes you feel bad about your decision. It might be difficult to change or leave a situation, but staying put is your choice so why continue to complain? You can either do something about it or not. It is your choice and you have responsibility for your choices.
Bear in mind that you have to be willing to change your behavior if you want a different outcome. You have to be willing to take the risks necessary to get what you want. If you’ve already taken an initial step in the right direction, now is the time to plan more steps to keep moving you forward, faster.
Isn’t it a great relief to know that you can make your life what you want it to be? Isn’t it wonderful that your successes do not depend on someone else?
If you do just one thing different today than you did yesterday, make it this:
Commit to taking 100% responsibility for every aspect of your life.
Decide to make changes, one step at a time. Once you start the process you’ll discover it is much easier to get what you want by taking control of your thoughts, your visualizations, and your actions! You will see the success you see in others. It will happen to YOU!